Everyone needs a self-care routine
Listen to me, you need a self-care routine. If you don’t have time scheduled for yourself on your calendar, do it now.
Having a self-care routine makes me a better wife, mom, and I find I am more focused at work. I find I lose my shit less and can stay calm. When I forget to take care of myself, I usually snap and say things that I normally would not say. When I am full of self-care, I am clever with words and actions. It pays to have a self-care plan.
As a matter of fact, my self-care plan came in handy today. This morning my husband was cleaning and putting away some Christmas stuff and found a bunch of alcohol in the basement. Turns out that it was my son’s hidden stash and he is only 15. If I was not keeping up with myself, I would have lost my shit! But I have an overflowing pitcher so now he will be at my beck and call for a while!
As moms, we have a hard job and need to take care of ourselves. I take it even more seriously because I already have endometriosis, anxiety, and Hashimoto’s – I am not looking for other items to add to my health problems. We should be looking for positive vibes and working on filling our pitcher so it is overflowing!
How to manage self-care with a busy life
I get that it can be hard to put yourself first with a busy life, but you have to take care of yourself. Listen to me busy successful female leaders, you have time. In 2020, my mom was battling pancreatic cancer and I was the main person she relied on to take her to the doctor, go grocery shopping, and all the other things we take for granted.
I still worked 9-5 and even managed to receive an exceeds on my performance review despite everything that was going on. This is really why if you are struggling, you need me as your coach. I have been at the worst point in my life and learned some valuable lessons like the one I am writing about now.
During this time I had a dedicated therapist and I also have my own coach to help me identify the blind spots I don’t. We all need a coach in our lives. But my point is life happens, but we still need to take care of ourselves.
When I was taking my mom to her chemo treatments, I would take breaks and go for a walk in a beautiful nearby park. This was time for me to de-stress because I had a two-hour drive to my mom’s house then onto the medical office. Let me tell you driving is exhausting and something that depletes my energy levels.
I also have an awesome morning and nighttime routine that gives me time to focus on myself and do the things I have planned.
The key to anything is planning. I recently posted on my Instagram a quote “Failing to plan is a recipe for stress” and it is so true.
Do you answer “YES” to any of these questions?
- Are you throwing dinner together at the last minute?
- Do you suffer from migraines or low-level headaches every day?
- Run out of time to exercise?
- Are you just going through the motions?
These are signs you are not planning your life and I want you to take action NOW!
This is a recent picture I took, getting ready to head in for a massage!
Starting a self-care plan
I am going to tell you a super-easy way to start implementing a self-care plan, but I recommend hiring a coach. A coach will hold you accountable and provide more information that builds on the information I am going to provide.
- Go buy a calendar or download one to your phone to keep track of “YOU TIME”
- Start with one area of your life to work on. Here are some examples:
- Start meal planning. Start small by planning a couple meals a week and build on that.
- Create a morning routine
- Create a night routine and de-stress in a hot bath (my favorite!)
- Sign up for monthly massages
- Plan time to read a good book you have been eyeing
- Plan weekly/monthly dinners with friends
- Start meditating
- Start a pedicure/manicure routine
- Find a new hobby that excites you
- Now plan that you have picked one area to focus on, add time on your calendar. Remember this is a non-negotiable time and if something comes up, you say NO!
Boundaries are important so you don’t disrupt your self-care time.
Here are my go-to self-care practices:
I own a Peloton bike and tread and love it! I just started cycling again and I love how I feel. We got rid of all our gym memberships and use only the Peloton equipment and weights.
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I take lots of baths with Epsom salt. This is a great way to melt the stress away and detox toxins from the body.
I bought the sticker nails from Ulta and do my own nails every two weeks.
I write, track my exercise, write down interesting articles I want to write, or sometimes just write about all the stuff in my head so it has a place to go.
I love a good book. My confidence and mindset coach wrote Thinking Like A Boss and it has a workbook! Here are other great reads I have been reading:
Put Yourself First!
This means that if I have a doctor's appointment, I leave work and go to my appointment. I don’t cancel or reschedule. I move things around or take off to make time for myself and my health. Boundaries play such an important when taking care of yourself.
Make time for God
I bought myself a bible journal that you can color and look up different stories that resonate with me at that time. I then color a section and learn more about the bible. I give all my worries and problems to God because that is what he wants.
I try and go to bed at the same time every night and stick to a routine. I wear an awesome eye mask and usually take a bath before bed to wind down. I also wear comfy clothes to prevent me from waking up.
Chill with my dogs
Yes, this is a must for me. I love my dogs and when I am having a bad day I snuggle with them and they make me feel better. It also helps to have a cozy blanket;-)
Cook at home and clean up your diet!
I know when I eat dairy or gluten, I am going to feel puffy, have a headache, and have a foggy brain. Notice what you eat and how you feel because feeling crappy is not going to serve you.
Unfollow negative people on social media
When you are scrolling through social media, looking at negative posts can do a number on your brain and is definitely not good for self-care. Instead, follow positive people and see who they are following for ideas on new social accounts.
Some of my favorite social accounts are:
- Michelle Polar
- Kate Crocco
- Rachel Hollis
- Positive Outlooks on Facebook
- Tony Robbins
- Dave Ramsey
- Harlow and Sage - because dogs are life!
- Official James Arthur Ray
- Project Forgive
- Laura Browning Grant - talk about inspiration!
- Brene Brown
Make your bed!
Have the best sheets and covers and make sure to always make your bed. 74% of bed makers felt more accomplished at the end of the day compared to non-bed makers(1). I feel more put together when I make my bed.
Headspace, Peloton, and Breathe are a few of my favorite meditation apps. I really love Peloton the most because the instructors are live and guide you through the mediation.
I love a good essential oil to not only make my house smell good but also put me in a calm and relaxing state.
Make life easier
I look for items that will make the hard things way easier. Here are my top items that make my life easier:
Washing my hair is no problem but when it comes to blowing it out ugh! I have really thick hair and it usually takes forever until I gifted myself a Dyson Hairdryer! I am not a sweaty mess and it only takes me five minutes compared to fifteen.
I love the SharkIQ we have named SparkleShit - she makes my life so much easier!
Instant Pot - Forget dinner, no problem! Sometimes I crave chili and a good one takes hours in the crock pot. I can make a really good chili with my instant pot in under an hour.
Angry Mama Microwave cleaner - Who has time to clean the microwave or who wants to. I usually give this chore to my son when he is in trouble but with this contraption, cleaning the microwave is super easy!
Take a Mental Health Day
Yup take time off work and work on yourself! If I am stressed and have been slacking on self-care, you better believe I am taking a day off work to do something for myself.
Tell me what your self-care routine look like!